Asking for help is good

Happy New Year friends. This is my first blog post in the year. While I am still taking some down time I just realized that I wanted to share something with you. The good vibes kind of posts will follow suit in the week to come, this one is key because we always miss it.

I grew up in a loving home and my Mom taught me how to be strong, kind and assertive. Which to date I am grateful for. As I grew older I noticed that I struggled to ask for help and when I did it was a bit late or I just could not reach out completely and I would shut down and go into my own shell.

Needing people or help was a point or situation I avoided at all costs. I taught myself that needing people or help especially at my lowest point was a sign of weakness. I felt as though by asking for help and admitting something was wrong or I was lacking meant that I had failure. I don’t know which evil nanny out there whispered this into my ear.

I literally struggled with it most of my adult life. It would irritate the life out of my friends when I do ask for help and it’s last minute. Their concern was not what I wanted or needed help with and if they would help or not it was the fact that I could not ask.

As I started spending time with myself and working on myself I had to ask myself critical questions. Why did I think asking for help was a sign of defeat or failure?

Needing people is a sign of strength. You cannot do it alone, no matter how much you lie to yourself. Needing help and being able to speak up and ask is a great quality in anyone. If we all could learn this the world would be in a better place.

Life and the responsibilities we are accountable for can take a toll on anyone. It’s adulting, it’s sometimes not fun, couple that with family issues, dating, having kids etc , we could all potentially end up having a personal shrink, maybe we should. I don’t know .

Being able to ask for help means you are aware that something bis beyond your control and you have identified that you need help. That requires self love and knowledge. You gotta be kind to yourself because no one is perfect and no one expects it from you. By refusing to acknowledge that you do not have all the answers you go against nature even God says all who are heavy ladden can come to him and get rest , so how can you tell think you can now do it alone.

I have also learn that if you have good and supportive friends they will catch you when you fall, so let go. Take it each day at a time and let that perfect cookie crumble.

It is my hope that in 2018. You will raise your hand and say I am not coping, I am confused , I am frustrated and more importantly I need help. May God assign those right people or friends to help you in that time of need and keep your challenges close to their hearts and in confidence.