Easy steps to Learn How To Trust

My hands are tied to the back. My feet are tied together. I can just feel my heart beating fast with excitement and the thrill of this chase I was about to begin. I cannot wait to get started. I am so confident I will win and beat my friends to the finishing line. As one my friend screams “on your marks” I begin running. I turn around the corner and I am in the lead now but here’s the surprise, I didn’t make it. I don’t know what happened. I must have lost a step or something. I have a vivid memory of the whole game, how it started but I don’t remember why it ended we me flat on the ground with my face on a stone.

I do remember my friends screaming and telling me I was bleeding and I do remember being taken home to my parents. I don’t how I got the hospital.That was almost 22 years ago. I recall that moment like it was yesterday. I grew up in a very small neighbourhood elokshin. I had awesome friends and every now and again we would find ourselves in a tricky situation. On one of those days I was left with a scar that is still on my face to this date and very much visible. This scar is a reminder of a lot of things and the most important lesson that even I have forgotten about at times, trust.

When you are a child if your friend says let’s jump the wall you will gladly do it. There is this high level of trust children have in their parents, relatives and friends that sometimes we can learn from.

My friends and I had never played this chase game before and if we had it was certainly not with our hands and feet tied together and that was not even a factor that would have stopped us. As kids the only time you listen to your parents is if there is something in it for you like candy or more Tv time but other than that most children don’t listen. I believe that is how they navigate childhood, make friends and discover themselves.

My friends and I were just having fun like all kids do. I did not know that I was going to fall and end up on the Doctor’s table getting stitches on my face. Here are a few things identified from this scenario: I trusted that the person who was tying me up would do it firmly. I trusted myself to know that I could do this thing and hopefully still win the game. I trusted the home I was playing in. They were adults in that yard but here’s the thing i still got hurt. They were other children there observing the game and yet I got hurt. It doesn’t matter which way I look at it, anything could have happened.Trust has no guarantees. It’s very nature is risky just like love. You can not pre-empty the journey that lies ahead in a relationship or business in order to be safe. Most of the times we do get burnt for some of us once if not twice, isn’t it?

Regardless of how perfect an environment is we do not have control over the challenges life dishes our way. You can find the perfect mate who appears reliable and loyal but they may still hurt you. Here’s how you can trust again and allow yourself to enjoy life to the fullest.

1. Be Fearless

Fear and Trust cannot reside in the same basket. If I was scared of falling or getting hurt I would not have played that game, but I wasn’t. I don’t think I even calculated the risk of falling. Lol. It was just a game. As adults we fear hurt or loss or pain because we have either witnessed it happen to others or we have been down that path before but with everything in life observe the spirit of a child and see how no matter how many times they fall of the bicycle they keep trying till they get it right. Fear limits us in so many ways. What if he/she cheats again? What is she falls in love with this boy and gets pregnant before she finishes her studies? What if I fail and lose my bursary? What if you work hard and pass? What if you trust your daughter to make the right decisions and she does not get pregnant? What if you have faith and hope for the best?

2. Be Open Minded.

Children are open minded and at times trust requires that from us or else we are caged. One has to adopt a positive attitude that is willingly to continuously learn and grow.

3. Let Go Of The Past

Trust opens up doors to a lot of things, peace , joy and happiness as well. At the same time you cannot unlock these doors if you cannot let go of the baggage. We all have had baggage in ourselves there are folks who find it hard to let go and move on. You have to de- clutter your life and evaluate what is important in your life. Whatever you are holding onto, is it worth it? Just picture life before that baggage was it not good and do you not want to get back to that space of joy and peace as well as trust?

4. Be reckless

This definitely sounds crazy but true. Have you ever observed how the best moments in life are the ones were you throw caution to the wind, forget your issues and just let loose? That is what trust is also made of, not over thinking things. Even in our faith as Christians we do things that seem crazy to the mind but somehow we surprise ourselves when it all works out for good.

Life is as beautiful as we imagine it to be and as we believe. Trust is a wonderful thing. It exists even between God and his children. I hope you find courage to let go of what’s holding you back from being a trusting person. You are missing out on new opportunities and new relationships and new experiences. Let go of what’s in your head!