Should you ask a man to put a ring on it?

I hope you are all having a great start to a beautiful weekend. I hope no matter how hectic your weekend will be you will spare a few minutes to just put your feet down, have a glass of wine. Read a book or just allow yourself to forget all the noise and ignore the fuss.

So let’s chat

Lately I have insomnia (something that is new to me) so I either read or watch some TV. I came across a channel on DSTV with a show for Married Reality Stars.

Working in the entertainment space I was familiar with 2 couples and I was keen to learn about the other two who had all signed up for the marriage boot camp. One of the ladies seems to be stuck in a relationship with a selfish partner. Towards the end of this particular episode there was something about her relationship that sounded very familiar and touched me. Towards the end of the episode I was just heart broken in terms of how much this lady had shelved her dreams and desires by allowing this selfish man to bully her. Sadly what one never realised when the are in this situation is the repeated rejection of a partner who keeps sliding your dreams or desires under the carpet if not disregarding them altogether. I would lose my marbles if this shit happened to me. “Either put a ring on it or I walk”.

A few years ago I was at the crossroads in my relationship and I could see a future with my man. The idea of being put in a situation where you realise you and your partner are not on the same boat is devastating. There is a difference when your man likes yoghurt and you like bananas. You can compromise however it quickly rolls into a different territory when you realize that you want something and your partner is not prepared to meet you halfway or even give it to you.

My friend made things easy for me and said “if you ever find yourself asking a man where your relationship is headed or if he loves you or if he is ready for marriage”. You should know it is time to walk away. As hard as it sounds it is true.

So here are some questions? Do you have to give a man an ultimatum if you see the ring is not coming? Is there a guarantee that if you give him that ultimatum you will get the ring? If it has taken you between 3-6 years to ask for that ring, where have you been and what were you waiting for? Do you think a ring or marriage seals the deal?

To answer these questions I will be having a Clinical Psychologist help us through this. It is a serious topic and we cannot tackle everything in text mode so I would love to add value in your life and help you with the necessary tips that can help you move forward in the right direction.

Everyone deserves happiness but it’s not a black and white dashboard journey , it requires work , assertiveness and sometimes a bit of selfishness. In most cases it us the ladies who repeatedly ourselves in this situation. You have to be willing to put yourself first and ask for what you deserve. It should suck waiting 7 years to give someone an ultimatum. Stay tuned to the blog as I will share the answers to the questions via my new upcoming YouTube show.

HAVE A BLESSED WEEKEND!!