THE MUST HAVE ACCESSORY

When i put on an outfit and i don’t have any jewellery. I feel as good as naked. There is one accessory that any human being should have and that is CONFIDENCE. Without it , on should feel naked.This accessory can never be over emphasized . As a woman i can tell you that there is nothing that is so unappealing as a brother who does not believe in himself. Why the self pity? If  you have nothing to offer me but love , take charge of that , own it and be proud of that. After all it is all you have and no one can take that away from you.

Not all of us are impressed by the car, fancy suit etc..  A man must be able to stand his own and confidence is definitely a REQUIREMENT before you can even think of asking a woman out.We are not going to talk about things such as a job, a vision for your life (the one you want me to be a part of), and by the way having a job alone is not enough. It is not that as women we demand it but going to work from 9- 5 everyday just does not cut it anymore. If we are talking long term here, our children need decent education, a stable and decent home,never mind the holidays and birthdays and family gatherings. This naturally requires saving, planning and a VISION.I don’t mean to bore you by re-emphasizing on having a vision. Our brothers have dreams and we know they do. How about investing in that dream and making it come to life and not just talking about it???

Back to confidence before i get carried away. It takes time and years to master feeling good in your own skin, but it should not. Self help exercises like talking to yourself in the mirror and telling yourself you are the best man for the job and the client will love you, do wonders before an interview. It is the easiest way to start.Counting the milestones you have achieved in life builds and restores confidence. I don’t know what it feels like to be a man but as a woman who knows what she wants i can tell you seeing and being in the presence of a man with confidence is enough to get me an orgasm. It gives me pride as a woman to see our brothers hustling and doing all they can to be providers for their families. It takes courage and confidence to do that. It is not easy. Many give up along the way and get comfortable being dependent on their mothers if their women. That is a shame.

Knowing who you are and what you stand for should give you confidence that is so arrogant more than anything. I love tall men i won’t lie, but that is a just one aspect of them that i like. As a man surely you know your strengths and weaknesses , you know what you have to offer mentally , emotionally and physically. Those little atrributes go a long way in helping with self confidence. Sometimes as women we get laughed at for writing all nitty gritty issues down , but i can tell you this is works. Men should start trying it out too…List all the things that you know you are good at. List all your physical attributes that you think a woman will love about you. You don’t have to share that with me , you know. Like guys who like telling women how good they are in bed , till the kisses start.. that’s about as good as he gets. Keep those to yourself…i don’t want to hear them. Bring them to the bed and show me…laugh out loud.

Even in the working environment without a certain level of confidence you will not develop. To get promoted you need to put yourself out there. You need to be willing to learn, to adapt and most importantly what can you offer? Only you know what that is. If you are confident about it , trust me even those around you will be confident. You will the Kind of your Castle baby. P.S it is a pleasure to work with people who know what they are doing. That can only stem from experience and confidence in one self.

Lastly listen to those around you. Listen to the advise and words of encouragement they give you. Men can be so stubborn that it’s annoying.If you are surrounded by the right friends .They can build you and encourage you in the right direction. Having no good for nothing friends who always expect you to take them out and pay for the alcohol bill is not going to build you in any way. Nor is you knowing what is good for you and going after it. In a journey of purpose and happiness they will be causalities along the way, sooner rather than later.

SO HERE”S TO MORE CONFIDENT BROTHERS DOING IT FOR US ALL.