To bath or not to bath after sex (the things couples do)

We live in an interesting world. Listening to Khaya FM’s Radio show with Tbose about whether couples shower before sex or not just inspired the blog post. I think this is my 1st sex blog post.

Twitter had interesting responses from both man and women as soon as Tbose announced the conversation for the day on his show on Kaya FM. Interestingly enough we had this conversation on Facebook not a while back. This may seem obvious to some people but the more people talk about it, the more I realize it is not. I would not be surprised if the hashatag #DoYouShowerBeforeSex is trending in South Africa in particular in Joburg.

I remember as kids we could not even say the word sex out loud. It was a big no no! So because the sex topic was a taboo growing up in Zimbabwe in the city of Bulawayo most of us had to figure it out on our own. Hello 2015 we talk about sex at home, on social media and on Radio and TV. People are no longer afraid of topics that used to be considered a taboo. Sex is one of those topics.

When my friends and I had this conversation we never reached a conclusion. There was #TeamBathing vs #TeamNoBathing. Interestingly enough now that the topic is broad it seems there the two teams will never merge. There are couples who say it’s not a must to bathe before sex. Then you have couples who are saying no bath, no sex. There are also women who are okay going all the way to “Polokwane” as one man referred to it on Twitter even if their partner has not bathed. Talk about double standards? Personally if I am going to bath before sex , why can’t you? It is is only fair that your partner extends you the same courtesy to you as well, not that you are bathing for him but it’s not like he won’t enjoy the journey to “Polokwane”.

The myth that women smell more than men because of their vajay-jay is not true. Some brothers out there have smelly armpits, lets be honest if your man cheats on you with his colleague and they have a quickie in the parking lot at work. He does not shower when he gets home and there you are wanting to get your groove on and you give him a BJ. Gross right? Was he smelling, probably not but the truth is you just did not see it. Hygiene is not about visibility. It has to be a conscious choice and way of living.

Benefits of bathing before sex

1. You get to bond as a couple and its also a chance to have ” us ” time.

2. If your partner does not clean up well or does not like it here’s a chance to show him how to do it well and to show him the benefits

3. You feel confident in yourself and how you present yourself to your partner without worrying what you look like down there and how you taste

4. You also get to go the full nine yards without restrictions.

5.  Lastly if you look good, you feel good. One cannot look good without a bath so can men stop with these lies about using expensive colognes. Please bath!

The exception to the rule is apparent the quickie or as Tbose hilariously put it , the fast food take away…Quickies are fun , lets not lie and its the thrill of time available to you, perhaps the unrestricted area you are having the quickie in that makes it fun..but hey.

What are your thoughts on the subject? Do you dry bath before sex or do you just go in for the kill? Lol. Would love to hear your thoughts.